“Who is Halina Goldstein?”
I work globally as a personal and spiritual growth mentor and teacher, I’m 58 years old and I live in a little town at the Danish Riviera.. Here’s how it looks like from above:
Unlike most other citizens here, I live alone and spend more time alone every day than many others do in a week. To be honest, I never expected it would turn out to be such a joyful way of living. On the contrary: I have spent much of my life struggling with and fearing loneliness.
So what helped me not only to survive several of life’s storms (such as losing my country of origin, my home, my native language, my friends, my parents, my brother, my husband) but also to find my safe harbor?
They say practice makes perfect… and yes, life gave me plenty of opportunity to practice and grow through loss, grief, separation and fear.
They say time heals all wounds, and it’s true… but only to some degree. There are millions of people around the world who live and die with wounds half healed, with chronic emotional pain, because they left the healing to time alone.
For most of us, transformation and inner healing requires conscious effort and commitment. It certainly took a lot of work for me – personal and spiritual. I prefer open, experienced-based inner spirituality, not any specific religion or tradition by the way. And I respect other ways.
Anyhow, some of it was hard, hard work – and it was all worth it. Much of it turned out to be a fascinating and inspiring journey.
It enabled me not only to find meaning, peace and happiness but also to create (and keep on creating) the life that I really want and the work I love. Here’s how it emerged in its present form:
I’ve been mentoring and teaching in a number of different ways and places since the beginning of the 1980′s. Around 2012/2013 I experienced a sort of death/rebirth in that arena. I understood that it was time to focus the essence of my entire life’s work toward a specific group of people.
Who would need to learn how to transform loneliness into a joyful life alone? There were different possibilities. However, my inner voice didn’t guide me to any of them. Rather, my intuition led me to create a global resource for widows.
To say that it surprised me is an understatement. I mean, even if I have followed my mother’s widowhood closely (and a few others too), even if my sudden divorce had strong resemblances with death, even if I have lived in the shadow of holocaust since I was a child, even if I have lost most of my family, I’m not a widow myself. So I tried to disregard it as some sort of inner mistake. Meanwhile that inner voice just grew stronger (that’s why they name it a calling, right? ).
So finally, I surrendered. I’m glad I did. Not just because it feels right but because there are so many widows needing this. Although things are changing, widowhood (and death in general) remains to be a powerful taboo in our Western culture. I believe there is a great need for more inspiration, education and support, especially from the perspective of personal and spiritual growth.
Turning grief into growth can take you from loneliness and hardship to liberation, inner peace and lasting joy.
My work and this place is dedicated to inspire, teach and support widows on their path from grief to growth.
I envision this project to move through a number of phases. In the beginning I will be sharing my own work. Eventually, I’d like to add contributions from other teachers, coaches, mentors, writers and artists as well.
Regardless of your background, if you feel this is the right place for you, I warmly welcome you on this journey (for as long or as short as you’d like).
PS: Just so that we’re clear on that: I’m not saying that you absolutely have to live alone all your life. I’m just saying that you can if that’s what you choose. You can create a satisfying, happy and peaceful life either way.
PPS: If you’d like to know more about my educational and professional background , here’s my LinkedIn overview (forgive me if it’s not completely up-to-date).